Ever since I was younger, I always felt a bit different than my peers. From preferring books over toys or waking up at 5 am to catch my fave black and white movies, I was an eighty year old woman in a child’s body–
Or so I thought.
Once I hit the infamous 20’s, things completely changed.
Google the words “Twenty Something” and you’ll find a wide array of articles covering everything a 20-something-year-old should know. From advice on what s/he should or should not do, where s/he should travel to, what jobs to take, where to live and what relationships to be in, there is never a loss for the COUNTLESS situations this age group will face. In fact, regardless of the different publications, websites, and authors of these articles there is one common theme–Getting to know yourself.
You see, everyone assumes your teenage years is the time to go out and experiment. It’s the time to fall in love, make mistakes and find yourself. Speaking as someone who is in their thirties and has live through both decades, I’d say it wasn’t my teens but rather my twenties where I truly discovered who I was. The term Quarter-Life crisis is around for a reason. For example, when I was 25 I found myself at a professional crossroads. I spent many nights asking, “Is this what I want to do for the rest of my life?” The same went for my love life as well. And do you know what? This can happen at ANY age.Yes, even this old soul made A LOT of immature mistakes. 24, 25, 26 and yes, even 28 years old–Old souls can be late bloomers, too.
Why am I telling you all this?
Well, I wanted to explain the background behind some of my characters. I’ve been asked why a couple of them seemed unsure of themselves and why they seemed a bit indecisive for someone their age. To put it simply, why aren’t they as “adult” as expected. But what exactly does it mean to be an adult? I’m still finding out and that is why my characters are as they are. They are in fact based somewhat on me.
I am 31 now and I’m still learning A LOT about myself. Sure, I’ve grown up since my yesteryears, but regardless–decision making, mistakes and anxiety does not have an age limit. Stuff happens and sometimes you revert.
I wanted my characters to reflect this so that any of my readers currently going through a Quarter-Life Crisis, Mid-Life crisis or any crisis would know that they are not alone 🙂